Online Self-Esteem Therapy to Empower YOU!
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Build Lasting Confidence for High-Achieving Women
On the outside, you’re accomplished and capable. On the inside, it feels like nothing you do is ever good enough. That quiet sense of “not measuring up” can drain your energy, affect your relationships, and leave you questioning yourself in ways no one else sees.
Hi! I’m Alexis Verbin, LCSW, LICSW, and I specialize in helping professionals rebuild a grounded, authentic sense of confidence. With 10+ years of licensed experience, I support clients as they learn to quiet self-doubt and strengthen self-worth. Ready to feel more secure in yourself and empowered in your life?
Offering Private, HIPAA-compliant video sessions in Denver, NYC, Boston, Burlington, and beyond. Flexible scheduling, including evenings.
What is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem is how you see and value yourself. It shapes confidence, worth, and self-acceptance.
Healthy self-esteem is your ability to recognize and accept both strengths and imperfections. It’s influenced by early experiences, relationships, internal beliefs, and the way you’ve navigated challenges over time. When self-esteem is strong, it helps to improve relationships and well-being. Research by Orth, Robins, and Widaman shows that higher self-esteem is linked to more fulfilling relationships and greater long-term happiness.
Low self-esteem, on the other hand, often shows up as self-doubt, constant comparison, or never feeling “enough.” It can stem from childhood experiences, trauma, cultural pressures, ongoing stress, or patterns you’ve learned along the way. While it’s not a formal "diagnosis," low self-esteem can impact your mental health and identity.
The good news is that self-esteem isn't who you are. Low self-esteem can be unlearned, and positive self-esteem can be strengthened at any stage of life. With therapeutic support and the right tools, you can shift these patterns and build a healthier, more grounded relationship with yourself.
Common Signs of Low Self Esteem
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You frequently feel “not good enough” and struggle to recognize your strengths. You constantly engage in negative self-talk and are very critical of yourself.
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You often feel inadequate or unworthy when measuring yourself against others.
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You downplay your successes or feel uncomfortable when others give you positive feedback or compliments. You may also feel like a fraud, despite your success, which is better addressed in imposter syndrome therapy.
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Self-doubt holds you back from taking risks or pursuing your goals which also shows up in anxiety therapy.
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You struggle to set boundaries, say no, or ask for help. People-pleasing can leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled.
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You may believe you don’t deserve the good things in life like love, success, or happiness, leading to self-sabotage when struggling with confidence.
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With low self-esteem, you may stay in unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone rather than genuine connection.
Common Contributors To Healthy Self-Esteem
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Caregivers, mentors, and friends, and partners who provide consistent love, encouragement, and validation help form a strong foundation for self-worth.
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Being recognized or praised for effort, encouraged to try new things, and allowed to make mistakes without shame can support increased confidence and resilience.
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Ability to acknowledge both strengths and limitations without harsh self-criticism. They hold a balanced view of themselves.
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Learning new skills, setting and then meeting goals, and overcoming difficulties builds self-efficacy as well as a sense of purpose.
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Knowing your values, setting healthy limits, and honoring your needs helps reinforce self-respect, self-trust, and confidence in navigating life's many stressors.
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Being able to recognize, validate, and regulate your emotions. This can foster a sense of stability, resilience, and overall health.
Treatment Approaches
Based on your unique needs and goals, I utilize a combination of the following evidence-based practices to help you build confidence and self-worth:
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CBT is a evidenced-based treatment approach that teaches you to identify and challenge negative self-esteem thought patterns, while replacing these unhealthy thoughts with more constructive beliefs.
Cognitive Therapy for Low Self-Esteem specifically focuses on uncovering your negative core beliefs that fuel your "inner critic." From there, you learn to reframe unhelpful thinking in order to develop a healthier sense of self.
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ACT works by encouraging acceptance of your experiences while committing to actions aligned with your values, fostering self-worth and self-esteem.
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IFS works by exploring and harmonizing the internal parts of yourself that may contribute to self-doubt or criticism.
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Works by cultivating strengths, gratitude, and as well as resilience to enhance self-esteem.
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Mindfulness teaches present-moment awareness and self-compassion to quiet the inner critic and reduce self-judgment.
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Trauma-Informed Therapy addresses past experiences and their impact on your self-esteem, promoting healing and growth.
Treatment Benefits
Here are some positive transformations you may notice when attending confidence counseling:
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In therapy, you will learn to embrace your authentic self, release feelings of self-doubt, and believe in your abilities. Therapy doesn’t just address the symptoms of low self-esteem, it helps you to create a foundation of self-worth that supports every aspect of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. You’ll begin to move beyond the negative core beliefs you’ve carried since childhood and develop healthier, more empowering internal narratives.
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Self-Esteem Therapy will help you strengthen your relationships with yourself and others by reducing self-doubt and increasing healthy communication and boundaries.
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Self-Esteem Treatment will teach you to make decisions based on your values and goals, not fear, self-criticism, or comparison.
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Working with a therapist on confidence will help you gain the tools and skills to manage the emotional toll of low self-esteem and approach challenges with resilience.
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In therapy, we’ll work on building self-worth and confidence so you can quiet your inner critic, reduce self-judgment, increase self-care and cultivate greater self-compassion and resilience.
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Working on self-esteem in counseling can also help you overcome imposter thoughts, perfectionistic thinking, as addressed in perfectionism therapy, and burnout, unlocking your potential to excel in your career and/or other avenues that are important to you. Whether you’re a female remote worker looking to build confidence or a leader of an organization hoping to silence self-doubt, therapy for self-esteem can help you level-up.
Self-Esteem FAQs
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Yes, I offer evening appointments for clients looking to address low-self-esteem. Please keep in mind, these slots tend to fill up the quickest. For up-to-date information on night time availability, schedule a free 30-minute phone consultation.
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I provide online support via Zoom for clients living in Colorado, Massachusetts, New York, Vermont, and Florida.
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Absolutely!
✔ Online Therapy has shown to be just as beneficial as in-person counseling.
✔ By utilizing Teletherapy for self-esteem building, you are able to receive accessible, practical support from the comfort of your home.
✔ Virtual sessions offer flexibility
✔ Remote therapy is perfect for busy professionals, business owners, executives, parents, athletes, or anyone seeking convenience.
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Your journey in therapy begins with the process of building rapport. During your first session, we’ll:
✔ Discuss your experiences, goals, as well as challenges related to self-esteem
✔ Identify unhelpful thought patterns and behaviors contributing to low self-worth
✔ Create an individualized treatment plan to help you build a new sense of confidence and resilience
As therapy progresses, you’ll gain insights into the underlying causes of self-doubt, develop actionable strategies to boost self-esteem, & begin to see yourself through a kinder, more compassionate lens.
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Absolutely! Many individuals who are high-achieving and/or successful appear confident on the outside but struggle internally with imposter syndrome, self-criticism, and never feeling like they’re "enough." Therapy helps bridge the gap between how you appear and how you actually feel about yourself.
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The timeline for building lasting self-esteem is different for every person I see. However, a majority of individuals start noticing a positive shift within 4-6 weeks of consistent therapy. For significant, sustainable changes in self-worth and confidence, it typically takes 3-6 months of regular therapy sessions to develop.
Several factors influence a person's therapy timeline:
✔ Your specific goals: Some clients want to focus on immediate confidence-building techniques by focusing on present-day factors. Other clients prefer deeper trauma work, addressing childhood patterns impacting their core beliefs.
✔ Starting point: If you're dealing with long-standing self-criticism or perfectionism, it may take longer to rewire these patterns compared to someone who has recently started feeling insecure in one area of life.
✔ Session frequency: Some clients choose to start therapy weekly, while other clients need to start bi-weekly due to busy schedules/finances. Weekly sessions typically produce faster results than bi-weekly appointments.
✔ Life circumstances: Major stressors or transitions can impact your progress timeline.
Many clients find that even after reaching their initial goals, they decide to continue with monthly "maintenance" therapy sessions to reinforce their newfound confidence and navigate new challenges as they arise. Remember, building genuine self-esteem isn't about quick fixes; it's about creating sustainable, lasting internal change.
Self-Esteem Book Recommendations
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This influential work outlines six key practices for building and sustaining healthy self-esteem.
🔗 Nathaniel Branden's Official Website-Author of "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem"
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This book, backed by research, focuses on how to embrace vulnerability while also letting go of the need for the impossible, perfectionism.
🔗 Brené Brown's Official Website- The Author of "The Gifts of Imperfection"
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Dr. Neff focuses on the concept of self-compassion as a way to improve overall well-being.
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This workbook offers practical exercises, focusing on how to help readers build as well as maintain healthy self-esteem.
🔗 Glenn R. Schiraldi's -Psychology Today- Author of "The Self-Esteem Workbook"
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Fennell provides a cognitive-behavioral approach to understanding and combating low self-esteem.
🔗 Melanie Fennell- Google Books- Author of "Overcoming Low Self-Esteem"
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This guide goes over actionable strategies for enhancing/boosting self-confidence & self-doubt.
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Kaiser shares her journey as well as helpful strategies for cultivating self-love & acceptance.
🔗 Shannon Kaiser Website- Author of “The Self-Love Experiment”
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Dr. Burns presents a ten-day program designed to alleviate feelings of inadequacy and build self-worth.
🔗 David D. Burns' Official Website-Author of "Ten Days to Self-Esteem"
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An exploration of the role self-esteem plays in psychological health and personal achievement.
🔗 Nathaniel Branden's Official Website- Author of "The Psychology of Self-Esteem"
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Brach focuses on self-acceptance by combining mindfulness and self-compassion practices.
🔗 Tara Brach's Official Website- Author of "Radical Acceptance"
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The books recommended here are for informational and educational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are struggling with perfectionism, anxiety, or any mental health concerns, consider reaching out to a licensed therapist or mental health professional for personalized support.
Start Your Journey Towards Confidence Today!
There’s no better time than now to invest in your mental wellness and rebuild your self-esteem. You are more than deserving of feeling confident, worthy, enough, and empowered! Together, we’ll work on building your positive sense of self so you can stop questioning your worth and start showing up fully as yourself.